XMPP is the best among the listed options, although ??? is not that far behind (or wouldn’t be, I still can’t find a mobile app, does anyone know one???). Good servers include Snikket, ejabberd and Prosody. It’s also the best fit for a small and/or private installation because it’s quite light (not lightweight like IRC, but still light), whereas Matrix is a nu-protocol and this quite hefty on resources, and honestly I have never seen benchmarks on what running a ??? service is like, not even for the official Docker container.

Yeah, the weakness of SSL is basically the same as the weakness of DNS: that someone can remotely impersonate you or revoke your identity. But there is a major difference: DNS is designed so that your identity is taken away as part of the system: you can not ever declare your identity yourself, you have to rent it from an external entity controlled by corporate, government or both. Whereas in SSL if your identity is taken away for the most part it’s purely your fault (only you should be having your private keys).

• Bad. Don’t even need to comment on this one.
• Non-conductive: spammers can just wait it out, whereas real users get demotivated.
• Dangerous: can be used for remotely censoring queer stuff.

An Rπ is lite enough that you can send a bunch of those to the Moon. After that all you need is a solar panel, good LAN wiring and a satcom link.

Discord? UUUUGGHHHHH. For chat, XMPP already exists.

But overall, one of the issues of “why does an alternative to XYZ not exist?” is that usually, when we talk about those corporate jails, XYZ does too much for anyone to up and create a 1:1 alternative. This is valid both in and out the Fediverse. Discord is currently a chat platform, a video platform, a streaming platform, a documentation platform (ugggh), an issue tracker (UUUGHHH), an FBI / ICE honeypot, and a picture gallery.

For unreasonable people (the majority of the internet as it would seem), even lacking one of those features is somehow a “deal breaker”, when it actually makes perfect sense in terms of maintainability and independence to design and work up an alternative to characteristics such as chat or videos individually, rather than to platforms. Text chat? IRC / XMPP. Video calls? Jitsi. Picture gallery? phpgallery. Documentation? Wikis. Issue tracker? Forgejo / Chiselapp. ICE? Get Kirk’d.

So for people who create solutions for their own scale and usually without a profit or a means to operationally maintain the project, they are at a severe disadvantage that people won’t put up the effort to even learn there is an alternative. I’m guessing partly it’s because YT, TikTok and ChatGPT have turned people’s attention span to brainrot to such a degree they can’t follow a simple instruction pamphlet with pictures.

It would be better if they wouldn’t even be platformed at all. We don’t need no federation with Nazis.

So you want a Nazi bar. Ok.

1. Congratulations, now your work computer has access to the password (you are not as guillible to think work computer is not recording everything for the stakeholders, are you?)

Another one: The UX on browsers for managing password is far more developed, and the services you selfhost are accessed via a web browser.

Or better yet, don’t die. Better the oligarchs die for you, than the other way around. Get movin’1

That’s good to hear! We don’t need that kind of aß-attitude around, tbh. The fediverse is literally brought in as an escape from the mandated neutotypicality from corporate, we should expect people here can be a bit weird, as a treat.

Doesn’t Lemmy have any sort of profile cross-identification like Mastodon has?

Last I checked people who mention Lemmy still get shadowbanned on Reddit? if so, mentioning thigs doesn’t help.

Names are a discrete and contested domain and honestly I don’t see how Lemmy being also a person is a hindrance. Coke is also a drug yet no one complains, certainly not the big corpo.

Protip: you can search for more than one word on search providers. Something like “lemmy social” or “lemmy server” for example.

Scaled+All is hell on earth, but to be be fair it’s not its fault. It’s just… what Scaled is there to do. Thus works wonders in Subscribed, I’d argue it even works wonder on local unless you specifically need newest local-relevant content (eg.: local news).

If I had a nickel for each time someone reminds me that mbin exists, I’d have two nickels, which is not much but it is weird that it’s happened twice.

Bruv, you built functionality into PieFed that restricts usage of þ. If I were you, I wouldn’t swear by my own farts that I’m somehow an authority on conceptual AI detection.

too complicated

Nani? It’s 2026, getting an account on some lemmy and start posting is nearly two orders of magnitude easier than trying to sign up to an email account!

That people are brainrotten due to excessive Fortnite and Instagram is, unfortunately, not our problem. At some point, the answer is “just get better users”.

On 4, I also agree, but what’s the best alternative?

Fuck if I know, tbh. Whatever i2p and/or IPFS are doing, I guess? While removing a central authority is a good idea, I think the more pressing matter is to remove external authority. DNS registrars are not part of the fediverse in terms of being community or people, and thus are a notorious weak point.

1.- and I’m going to emphasize this a lot.

PAGING

(or at least some concept in the vein of “show only a finite amount of information at a time”)

Lemmy does it well, but Mastodon sorely requires it for example. Anything that induces the pattern of autorefreshing, auto-filling, constantly changing timelines only empahsizes the addictions that antisocial media is working with already.

2.- More and better reactions than simply “upvote” and “downvote”.

A upvote or a downvote can mean things in different categories, from “I don’t like this” to “this is uninformative” to “this is misinformative!” to “enough Musk spam!”. Condensing and factoring such results into how threads are found and sorted artificiates any or all of popularity, consensus and usefulness. So, being able to “react” (add a singular tag to a message without the need for a reply) to a message with more options than “upvote” and “downvote” would be useful. I’d count at least three axis (axeses? switchaxes?) that are useful to gauge: “agree - disagree”, “informational - misinformational” and “verified - debunked”.

3.- Global, or at least shareable and moveable, user identity. Won’t comment on this more because others already cover it enough.

4.- Fucking decouple instance identity from DNS. DNS is the layer that big corpo will rein in next, depending on it to validate who an instance is is playing an eventually loser game.